People didn’t think we would last. We were engaged after four months of dating, and then married three months later. They thought we were getting married because we were pregnant – well only those who didn’t really know us, because those who did know us knew that we waited until our wedding night!
Being married to Steven for 4.5 years has taught me SO much. Not only about what it takes to be in a committed relationship (and to be happy doing it), but also about life. When I think of all that we have accomplished together, I look back and recognize that we went through some really hard times. I know it’s a cliche, but I believe our marriage is stronger for it. I think our marriage really was tested in the past 3 1/2 years of trying to get pregnant. Talk about a HARD time. It wreaked emotional and physical havoc on my body, and Steven was front row to bear witness. Now that I’m pregnant, I’m just an emotional wreck for many obvious reasons and some not so obvious reasons.
Steven has been the BIGGEST support for me these past years.
What a lot of people don’t know is that trying to get pregnant and not being successful over and over can really take its toll, and it especially did on me. Steven has been a saint through all of it. It has been SO hard for me and he has always been there to support me and get us through this. I know it hasn’t always been easy for him, but he’s never complained. Not once. He didn’t get upset with me when I’ve been cranky from the meds, or sick from the meds, or really upset about spending yet another 800 dollars when it felt like I was just failing every month. When I cried so hard after I had to do my first injection, he held me and just let me cry. When I felt he would be better off with someone else, someone who could get pregnant, he told me I was wrong. He stood by me through it all and when I started to lose hope and faith that it would never happen for us, he reminded me of my beliefs. He never once doubted that our time would come.
I don’t have enough words to express the gratitude I feel for my husband and all that he does for me. I always feel LOVED, supported, and encouraged by him. I know that not everyone is fortunate enough to have this in their life, and I will always be grateful to have Steven as my husband.
Our journey to getting pregnant is just ONE area in my life where Steven has been my greatest support. He supports me in everything I do and that makes a huge difference. Life just wouldn’t be the same without him by my side!
Marriage is staying true to your vows and standing by your partner when times are tough.
Marriage is always choosing to love.
Marriage is knowing that you always have someone you can count on. Someone to trust and to go through a lot of great things and a lot of not so great things in life with.
Marriage is understanding that the roles we take on will shift depending on where we are in our life and in our relationship.
I believe so strongly in our marriage, and I am PROUD of us for always choosing to make our relationship the very best it can be. I believe that when you’re married you make a choice every day, and that choice is to love the person you’re with, and to help them become the best person that they can be. Also, I love that we have proved all those naysayers wrong so far! 😀
So, choose carefully when you decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with 🙂