It’s the little things that pull me back to my childhood, and make me so grateful and blessed that my family was able to provide me with a positive and supportive childhood. Not everyone gets to have that, which it makes me treasure it so much more. I never fought with my parents or back-talked. I definitely fought and argued with my siblings, but who doesn’t? I honestly think I was just a good kid who knew to appreciate what I had. I remember growing up and seeing how different my relationship with my parents was from all of my friends and their relationships with their parents. I’ve been told that I have an old soul, and that I’m wise for my years. I don’t know if I necessarily see that, but I think I owe it to my upbringing. Having parents who are deaf was a very different perspective and culture to be raised in than my peers.
We celebrated my mom’s 58th birthday last week! My parents rented a car and drove down to South Portland to see our new place for the first time. We (really, it was Krystle) made dinner for them, played games, looked at photos, caught up, and watched a movie with an ending I hated. My mom and I played dominoes while Steven watched on, and I felt like a little kid again. My mom and I and my sister would spend hours on a weekend playing dominoes as we were growing up. Walking past the dining room table, you often saw dominoes scattered all over the place, with the remains of the last round so we knew where we left off. It was comfortable. It was home. I had the same feeling back in September when Becky and I stopped by my parents house so we could use the bathroom before making the three hour drive south back home. My parents weren’t home, but everything was exactly as it was when I was growing up and lived there.
Sometimes, I think we get so caught up in everyday life – the technology, the commutes, the chores, the “busyness” and we just forget to take the time to unplug and truly connect on an emotional level. It can be as simple as putting away the phone or the tablet and playing a game with someone you love. I love it when Steven and I play card games or make dinner together and just chat about our days and our most recent thoughts. That is the kind of atmosphere I want to create for my family when we start to have children. I want them to be able to do something and feel the same feelings they had about their childhood as I do. I can’t say for sure that it will happen, but I can certainly do my best!