A friend of mine from work just recently got engaged. We used to carpool together, so I was SO excited for them!! She came into my classroom earlier this week after the last bell had rang and asked about how I budgeted for my own wedding.
This prompted a conversation about something Steven and I did together that really made a difference when it came to not only planning our wedding, but figuring out our budget. I had totally forgotten that we did this until she asked me for some tips. After my conversation with Amanda, I realized that that I should share this information with others too!
Weddings are expensive. Some people are totally cool with spending thousands and thousands of dollars on a wedding, and others don’t want to do that. That is OKAY. Every couple and wedding is different. With that being said, planning is stressful, especially where money is involved.
So, this is what Steven and I did:
We created a Venn diagram! On one side was things that I really wanted to have at the wedding, and on the other was what Steven really wanted. In the MIDDLE are the things that were important to both of us. We took this venn diagram and we had a great and meaningful conversation about our wedding, and what we wanted it to mean.
We planned our wedding solely on this middle portion of the venn diagram. This gave us direction about what we wanted to spend money on, and if it wasn’t super important to the meaning of our day (if it wasn’t going to add value and memories) then we didn’t want to have it on our wedding. That was just OUR way of filling out the diagram and applying it.
This is going to look different for every couple! Our primary goal was to pay for our wedding out of pocket, and to pay for it on our own. I’m happy to say that we were successful with planning a beautiful wedding in three months that was true to US and what we wanted – without breaking the bank 🙂
So, if you’re struggling to figure out finances for your wedding, I encourage you to take a step back and evaluate what your wedding day means to you both and what is the most important.
A pretty wedding is great, but if it’s not about what the BOTH of you want to get out of it, then is it worth all the money spent?
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