Four tips for writing your own vows | For brides

Writing your own vows adds a special layer of uniqueness and intimacy to your wedding day. Steven and I wrote our own vows, and I’ve heard several others write their own vows as well! I’ve decided to come up with four tips for writing your own vows to make it feel less daunting.


#1. Figure out what marriage means to you.

When you’ve laid out the ideals of your marriage, and the commitment you are making, you can incorporate those into your vows. Steven wrote a lot about the promises he was making to me, and I wrote about marriage being another adventure for us to share.

#2. Find inspiration.

I used a lot of poetry to find inspiration for my vows. It’s also helpful to find examples of other vows that people wrote, or meaningful passages about being a couple. Inspiration of some sort really helped me a lot.

#3. Incorporate experiences you two have shared.

At Kassaundra + Greg’s wedding, they had killer vows that they each wrote themselves. They tied in some of the things that they have experienced together into their vows that made the audience laugh and cry 🙂

#4. Don’t be afraid to share your vows with a close friend, or even your soon-to-be spouse.

It can help clarify some sentences and make sure it all flows well.


Does anyone else have any tips for writing your own vows? If you do, share them in the comments below!

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